The Art of the Apology
Making Amends Makes a Difference
“I can only say I’m sorry so many times.” Indiana Jones, Raiders of the Lost Ark
In discussing apologies with a group of women, one of them said, “I can’t remember the last time, I heard my husband apologize … for anything. (Long pause.) Actually, I can remember the last time. He didn’t mean it.” The other women in the group chorused, “So it doesn’t count.”
What is an Apology?
An expression of remorse.
A way to make amends.
A statement of connection … of reaching out.
The calling of a truce.
A way to show understanding of the pain and/or difficulties caused by one’s words or actions.
A powerful statement leading to healing.
A bridge between the pain and upset of the present to the healing of the future.
An acknowledgment of the other person as a human being who has feelings that need to be taken care of.
A statement of empathy.
An Apology Helps Strengthen the Foundation of a Relationship
No relationship is perfect. Both partners make mistakes or inadvertently cause…
